Sex Appeal and Signals- Reading Body Language

Hi, Wendy:

I have been divorced for a number of months and am fairly new back into the dating market. I have tried the bars and found that they are not my style but I am trying to actively meet a new life partner. I also am pretty clueless about how to read a single woman's body language in just about any setting- in fact, I can't always tell if she is a single woman or in a partnership if she is not wearing a ring. I don't want her to think I am a stalker- creep or something but want to convey my interest if she is available and also possibly intrigued.

Help!-

Nice, Normal Single Guy
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Hi, Nice Normal Single Guy:

It can be challenging to tell if a woman is interested in you or not- but not certainly not impossible- we all give off subtle body cues whether we are aware of them or not. This topic also too complex to fully explain here but I can give you a few tips which might be helpful.

There are a number of books on the subject & Heart Connections offers a Sex Appeal: The Art of Flirting seminar for both single men and women. Like you, many single people have limited clues on how to read the body language signs of sexual attraction and interest.

Trust your gut instinct, but behave like a gentleman. Try to be confident without acting like a obnoxious tall poppy. Be subtle and clever, instead of laying it on with trite come on lines. Try to make her laugh!

Here are a few common positive sexual body signals of flirting: Direct, extended eye contact, the woman might play with her hair ( ie flip it back from her face), she will turn her body towards you when you talk to her rather than away, she will smile and laugh, she has a relaxed physical posture that shows she is open to the attention of strangers before you approach, she may touch you on your hand or shoulder, and point her feet in your direction when you are conversing.

If she folds her arms across her chest, turns away from you physically or uses her drink or purse to block you, it may be a sign she is not interested or available.

Good luck, Nice Normal Single Guy-

P.S. Check out one of Heart Connections fun and informative seminars on Sex Appeal- The Art of Flirting for more help in this area.

Wendy Somers

Heart Connections
www.heartconnections.co.nz
04 970 433

Wellington, New Zealand