First Date Jitters and Anxiety- 6 Success Tips

6 Success Tips for First Date Jitters and Anxiety:

You have finally set up the first date, the hour is rapidly approaching and you feel like a teenager planning for your first kiss.

1) Prepare in advance, and dress appropriately for the date. This is not the time to try out the new multi-coloured hair style, or eccentric clothes. Wear something that you know looks good on you, and is comfortable. Guys, go with clean, well pressed and classic- nice somewhat conservative shirt with a collar, holiday party type pants with a belt, polished shoes and a hair cut- shave.

2) Set your first date to occur somewhere low stress, quiet and fairly private. You don't want your boss, co-workers, and friends to be stopping by every 5 minutes to say hello. We suggest a casual coffee date, so you can limit the amount of time you spend with this new person, if things aren't working out.

3) Remember to breathe when you feel anxious, and let the other person talk. Have some interesting questions in mind to ask them- but remember this is not an interview filled with grilling, personal questions. Also ask Wendy, if she is working as your matchmaker, for a bit of coaching before your date, it can really help! Or you can go on a trial date..

4) Realise that statistically very few people actually die of stress on their first date, and that the other person is probably just as nervous as you are. You might want to admit it and laugh at yourself- it can be great at breaking the ice...

5) Try not to make snap decisions about the person, we always suggest you try a second or third date if the person seems at all interesting. It is almost impossible to determine whether it is a good fit on the first date.

6) First dates are just too nerve racking, and people have their "masks" firmly in place for you to make a clear determination about a possible match. First dates are pretty awkward for just about every single woman and single man, so know you are not alone!

Remember this is supposed to be fun! Laugh at yourself, and don't take anything in life too seriously!


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