What are the pros/ cons of internet dating?

Hi, Wendy:

I have been using FindSomeOne and NZ Dating for a few months. I have to say I am feeling overwhelmed and disappointed with the guys I have gone out with. My male roommate is also trying to find a partner on FindSomeone. We have both experienced people who have really misrepresented themselves and/ or are married and looking for a quick affair. Is it worth using these online dating service sites? I am getting really burned out and thinking of giving up. It also is not very cheap on a monthly basis. Is it a good value for money?

"Looking for love in all the wrong places"

Dear Looking for Love:

I think the internet dating sites can be a good resource, but it is kind of like throwing out a huge net and hoping you only get the highest quality fish. You are going to attract all kinds of people- good and bad. Your online experience and frustration level is not unusual- I hear it all the time.

You don't know who you are really talking to, or who you are going to meet on the 1st date. People can represent anything they want and the stats say that 40% or more of the people online lie about really significant issues ie age, marital status etc.

I encourage my clients to consider every option and resource when they are looking for love, but also to let me screen and meet with the people they find first before setting up a date or spending much time chatting. The losers won't even bother to let themselves be screened because they know they will get caught in their lies. That seems to be the smartest way to utilise this resource and has really worked for a number of my clients.

Warmly,

Wendy Somers
Matchmaker and Love Coach
www.heartconnections.co.nz
04 970 1433

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