How soon should I consider having sex?

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Dear Wendy:

I have gone out on two dates ( one was just a drink) with this new guy I met on FindSomeone. I like him but he is putting some pressure on me to have sex now. He wants to know if we are going to be compatible in bed or not before pursuing a relationship with me. I am not really all that comfortable with going to bed with this guy I don't really know all that well. What do you think? Am I really uptight about sex?

M

Dear M:

I think you should follow your gut instinct about having sex with this guy. If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. While being sexual and passionate is a great thing, I don't feel you have to jump into bed right away.

Take your time, if this guy is really interested he will invest some time in getting to know you. Unfortunately, online dating can be a great resource for people who just want a quick fling in the hay, so to speak. Some of these people are just looking for an affair, and are not really available. How do you really know?

You decide if this is something you want to do- it should not be a test, it should because you want to do it, and will both enjoy adding sex to your growing relationship.

Best of luck-

Wendy

Wendy Somers
Matchmaker and Love Coach
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