DATING TIPS FOR SUCCESS!
1) Remember this is supposed to be fun! Don' t take it too seriously. Be positive and happy- it will show up in how you look and feel about the world.
Do some positive affirmations- if you need some suggestions- see author Louise Hay for some books with great affirmations. They work, and are not magic!
2) Go into your first connection with the idea of meeting a friend.. if he or she becomes a romantic partner, great bonus. If not, you still have gotten a benefit from the meeting. Coffee or drinks is a good "limited time" first date in a safe public place.
3) Dress to impress and appropriately for the occasion. Primp and preen- ladies, show your best assets but don't over do it. No major cleavage flashing, heavy makeup, silver high heels- be classy.
Clean it up, guys- iron those clothes, brush your teeth, hair cut & shave! If in doubt, ask a friend with style for an evaluation. Flirt and make eye contact but be appropriate and polite.
4)The guy pays.. it is only coffee or dinner. Make it easy!
5) Be positive in your conversation, and don't dominate the conversation. Let the conversation flow and the other person talk! Mind your manners, be polite and attentive.
6) Have some pre prepared questions that are pretty neutral but interesting. No politics, religion or how would you "do away" with your ex wife if you could get away with it? Ask what they love to do for fun, best vacation, etc. No past horror stories!
7) Make it a "getting to know your conversation"... be curious. Go with a very open mind. Someone who does not fit your "physical look" may fit in every other way. Dress, and appearance can be easily modified, heart, soul and spirit cannot.
8)Go out with someone at least 3 times before you decide they are not for you.
9) Don't assume anything about the person. They could be very nervous on a first date or have had a very bad day. Give everyone a fair chance and enjoy getting to know someone different.
10) Women- stop looking at the guy for marriage and father of your kids material only! Let the relationship develop and be open to friendships! Stop planning the wedding after the first date. Slow down and enjoy the process! Ask your girlfriends if you feel you are rushing it.
11) No sex on the first date. Make it more than just a quick sexual encounter. Don't do anything you are uncomfortable and trust your gut intuition.
12) Follow up after the date, if you are interested, let them know. No game playing. It is annoying for everyone. If it is not going to work for, be polite but communicate your thoughts with honesty and integrity. Don't avoid phone calls or be evasive.
13) Don't get discouraged if the date does not result in the love relationship you hoped for- try and try again. Learn from the experience, and look for the positives that came out it.
14) Don't give up, keep dating, keep getting out there into the world. Use different ways to meet people. You deserve to have your dream!
15) Let someone know where you are and who you are meeting, for safety sake.
For more tips or dating help, give me a call at 04 970 1433 or see Heart Connections at www.heartconnections.co.nz.
Good Luck- and have fun!
Wendy
Wendy Somers
Matchmaker and Love Coach
www.heartconnections.co.nz
04 970 1433
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Sunday, October 11, 2009
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